I had a hawt date tonight…

With my husband.

The busier things are the more important it is for Mr. K and I to have down time without the kids and our job responsibilities. In the past three weeks since our vacation we have both been extremely busy and not had much time to spend together. Our conversations have centered around the children, homeschooling, who is running what errand, who is cooking what meal, who is taking that kid there followed by “I have to go to bed before I fall out”. And sex, I almost forgot what that was!

To get things started we headed to Marble Slab.

Great dates do not start out with flowers, they start out with chocolate! Followed by thrift store shopping. I know, very exciting stuff here. Scored two perfect Banana Republic dress shirts for Mr. K at the Goodwill. Then we headed to the furniture store and I fell in love with this chair.

And while there we talked about our reading/coffee/adult conversation room. I laid the plan out and Mr. K was all for it! So I am going to be coming up with a budget for the furnishings.

Then while we are in the midst of shopping this guy tried to pick me up.

And there was breaking news that an ape had escaped from the zoo.

Then things got weirder. All the babies and toddlers turned into zombies. You know I can’t make this shit up.

I finally found Mr. K in the store and he just couldn’t believe all the strange things that happened. Luckily I had my iPhone and took pictures.

Before heading for dinner we decided to get a little Christmas shopping done because there are only 91 more days until Christmas.

This book totally saved my ass tonight…

This book was in the discount section, the title couldn’t be more fitting. In fact I would not inconvenience myself to read it, not even at bargain prices.

We finished our date night at Bamboos Steakhouse. OMG, it was to die for and the service was absolutely incredible. This is one of the few places we really enjoy eating. While there I did something I haven’t done in 5 weeks…

I drank soda. Three full glasses of Dr. Pepper I might add. I know, I know, I am a rebel!

Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

 

 

It’s okay to laugh, someone should

I was going to post pictures of my vacation. I wanted to write about some of the things going on in politics right now or what Pat Robertson said this week about divorce but alas, I had no time. In fact right now I am barely sitting up right, completely exhausted, and just wishing for peace and quiet so that I can fall asleep before going kayaking tomorrow morning. However I am going to blog just a small smidgen of my week so you can get an idea of how crazy my life is right now.

Thursday I locked my keys in my car. I only have one key. And I had somewhere to go. My purse was also in the car. It took the guy thirty seconds to unlock my door and he took $40 of my money to do it.

Sadly this happened during the heat of the day and when I got into my car to run errands it smelled like dead fish. This is because on Wednesday I did an event at Fairhope Beach. We had a scavenger hunt. One of the things on the scavenger hunt was fish bones. My son’s scavenger hunt bag was in the car – full of the items he collected, including a half decayed fish.

That was Thursday.

Friday wasn’t so bad. Manageable.

This morning I got up early to lead a group of Fresh Air Family members for the Coastal Cleanup.

After having 5 hours of sleep.

Successful event. Two truckbeds of trash and I am pretty certain the kids with us will never litter. They found some interesting things – a female’s clothing, a mattress, a fire extinguisher, and condoms.

I can’t make this stuff up.

After the trash was unloaded and everyone ate….

I locked my keys in my car.

Again.

In less than 48 hours.

I am full of win. #winning

Did you know if you lock your keys in your car twice in the same week they will give you a discount?

They totally do.

I think it is called “pity for the stupid” discount.

While sitting in the heat waiting on said locksmith I got a phone call with disappointing news. There was a lot of whines and sad faces from the kids that were with me.

After the car was unlocked and we were on our way home. My sons begin to harass me to explain what condoms are and what they are used for.

So after we get home, I peed (for the first time in like 8 hours) and then Mr. K and I sit down the boys to explain what sex is and what condoms are used for.

One son was totally weirded out and giggled the whole time.

The other son was totally grossed out and said he was never going to do that. EVER. Then he asked if it was necessary for a penis to go in a vagina to have kids because he wanted to avoid that.

Draw your own conclusions.

Then I went to a certain craft store to pick up something for my event on Monday.

And I may have accidentally hit a very expensive car that was parked two feet over the line.

Let me say this may or may not have happened.

If it did happen, it was totally the other drivers fault that hogged two parking places at a busy craft store on a Saturday.

I’m just saying.

 

 

Bail Money Is Not Needed… YET

So I took a break from blogging. For the last six months I have been suffering in the blogging department, putting out so-so material, not really having any direction in my writing. You will be happy to know that that has now changed. There are going to be a few changes over the next few weeks and months and I hope you will stick around and keep reading.

Part of my struggle with writing has come from the fact that Mr. K is still suffering from the mystery illness. Since his diagnosis of Parsonage-Turner Syndrome there has not been much improvement. In fact things have slightly gotten worse and to avoid my blog becoming one of those blogs – and you know exactly the kind I am talking about – I’ve tried to keep my angst and that personal part of our life off the web. That can really stifle your writing, especially when you want an outlet for your emotions and want to write about your anxiety over the unknown while shaking your fists at God.

So I am going to be honest with you all – my anxiety is high. I sometimes can fake that things are fine. I have to keep my shit together because I have five kids and I have a job, but most of all, I have a husband who doesn’t need to worry over me worrying. This part of our life that has left us in limbo now for over eight months has played with my emotions and with my overwhelming need to CONTROL. I can’t control what is going on with Mr. K. He can’t control it. The doctors can’t control it. I just want it fixed and there is no fix. So you can imagine what the last eight months has done to my control freak, demanding and bossy self.

Which leads me to one of the big things going on in my life. I’m working, steadily, and I love what I am doing. I haven’t talked a whole lot about my job here because I’ve wanted to keep my professional life out of my personal life. This also stifles my writing because I want to tell you about what I am doing. I want to tell you how this job is changing my life and how it is impacting my community. I want to tell you about how I am overcoming my phobia of birds and played with snakes. I want to tell you that I surprise myself when it comes to my work  because I am really good at it. So I am going to start being more open about my work, what I am doing, and why I am passionate about it.

The kids are older and my parenting is changing, our family is changing. I no longer have a baby at my breast or little ones in diapers. That part of my life is over and the dynamic of our family life is changing because of it. I have a teenager. (wasn’t I just one myself!) Sometimes I feel old and wonder where the last decade went. As our family changes, so do our views and the things that we didn’t think were very important a few years ago are now staring us in the face. I often feel torn between wanting to run screaming from it all or embracing it like a long lost friend. And in a month Mr. K and I will be taking a five day vacation sans children and it will be the longest stretch of time we have ever been without children. Without five children around I am not sure how we will conduct ourselves! ( I am sure good sex, good food, and lots of sleep will take place!)

I am surprised at how incredibly busy I am. I had this delusion that as the kids got older I would have more time for myself. This is so far from the truth. They are actually more demanding. And the fighting. The arguing among them all is exhausting. There are more messes, more responsibility and on top of it all, I home school them. Their education is foremost in my thoughts as is preparing for what awaits them outside our home. I am constantly praying and crossing my fingers that I can get them to adult hood without being too screwed up or warped. I just want them to be able to support themselves and be productive citizens, and anything above and beyond that would be gravy.

As for the title of this post, well for one it was to grabbed your attention. Certain local issues have grabbed mine and enraged me that all common sense has seem to have been lost in Mobile, AL. I oppose a daytime curfew ordinance that our mayor has proposed to fight crime as well as one against “saggy” pants. I will be getting into all that in another post but it would not be surprising if I did something purposely to challenge such ordinances. Thus, why I might need bail money. Of course in jail I would get three square meals a day and possibly some sleep which sounds almost like a vacation! This also could fulfill a need to mentor crack whores but from the inside, because who doesn’t love a rebel?

Random Tuesday Thoughts Because I Can

Don’t go and tell me that Random Tuesday Thoughts is over. I know the UnMom has given it a rest for now, but dang it, I am going to do some Random Tuesday Thoughts. LOGO and ALL!
So, OMG – WHERE DO I START!?!

First, Mr. K has some rare, uncommon neurological disorder that is not terminal. ::::happy dance:::: I’ve been meaning to come and post that here for days but we have been celebrating life and having fun (and lots of sex). Because that is what you do when you find out you are not going to die of some debilitating disease. That and drink. Which we also partook in.

And let me tell you the name of his mystery illness, Parsonage-Turner Syndrome.  It is practically unheard of. Hopefully Mr. K will be as good as new in 1 to 2 years as long as he does not have any relapses. He will have to be monitored for the next year to make sure that is what he has because neurological disorders are hard to diagnose, but he appears to have a classic case. And while this is something that sucks, we are perfectly fine with it because why? He won’t die from it.

We are talking about taking up gambling. We figure if he has some rare, uncommon disease, then hey, maybe we can have some uncommon luck at the casino. $$$$$

I bought Tangled for the kids, and they have watched it so many times they know each line by heart.

Saturday I worked, but my work often feels like play, and then we went to Arts Alive! The day was beautiful, spent with new and old friends!

Don’t be fooled by this one’s cuteness. She is quite the handful and prefers to not use a commode. Have I mentioned she is four? Don’t ever ask me for potty training advice, I am a complete failure at it.

On Sunday, my van was full of dirt and smelled like shit yet there were no kids in the back.

Yes, I did haul top soil and manure in the back of my van, because I am trying to knock out that Before 37 list which I am failing miserably at.

And while I was at Lowe’s on Sunday buying supplies for my above bed garden I hollered at Mr. K “I need ten inches, not eight, TEN!” In front of a bunch of men. This was one of those awkward moments when an innocent phrase became grossly inappropriate.

Thanks for all the prayers, positive thoughts, and good vibes all of you sent our way. It means so much to both me and Mr. K.

 

I’ve not lost my mind – YET!

Continuity gives us roots; change gives us branches, letting us stretch and grow and reach new heights. ~Pauline R. Kezer

I’ve been a busy girl. In fact I am starting to think I function better when my plate is full but I keep reminding myself  to pace myself so I do not burn out. I have A JOB. If you follow me on Twitter I have talked a little about it or if you are on my Facebook page. It is something that just kind of fell in my lap and it has an element to it that when I have told my closest friends there mouths just kind of dangle open and then when they catch their breath they say “Have you lost your mind?”

Well, NOT YET. The job is part time and I am working for a non-profit and there is something about it that doesn’t exactly fit in with how I have lived my life these last two decades.

Picture it, Beautiful Wreck – outdoors woman.

Stop laughing.

In the last two weeks I have been walking, reading books on birdwatching, and trying to find the best pair of hiking shoes for my size 11 feet. I’m going to change my life for the better people. I am going to live the mission of this organization and be a living testimony for getting up off the couch and getting outdoors and communing with nature.

And did I mention I am EXCITED! I am totally excited because I am not working for big business that takes from the community, but helping provide a service and outlet to others that will make them healthier and happier. I get to take my kids to events I plan, and sometimes Mr. K (when he isn’t working). I get to invite people I know and make new friends. The joy of doing something that serves the community, all members, is something very important to me. I really think I will get back as much as I give.

So my mind is swirling with all kinds of ideas, but at the same time I am SCARED. I need to get in shape and loose some pounds. If I am going to be leading little people through the woods I need to not be the straggler but at the front of the line. I’m going to be learning a lot of new things and having a lot of new experiences – like kayaking!

I have a lot to learn. I’ve been that person who watched the Travel Channel and National Geographic and would say “I sure would like to do that – see that – experience that” while I munched on some Cheetos and sipped a soda. Not exactly a good role model for my five kids. Now my kids will see mom changing her life, moving, practicing what she preaches – “Go outside and play and get your nose out of a screen”.

And of course I will be sharing my adventures, mishaps, and the craziness of it all with you. Because you know there are going to be stories. Great, wonderful, funny stories.

No, I did not fall asleep while reading a book about Alabama birds.

Okay, I did, but I was tired!

I swear it was not the content.

Homeschooling Five: Back to the books

For the last few months I have been very lax when it has come to direct studies with the kids. This is not because I am lazy, but because we spent our summer heavily hitting the books and needed a break. I needed a break. I also wanted to test the waters out on allowing the kids more freedom. In some respects it was nice. The kids did continue to do things on their own, especially my teen who continued on with her pre-algebra, her science, her vocabulary lessons, reading and writing. We played a lot and were on the go a lot. We had a lot of fun and I really got to learn a lot about my kids and how they learn when allowed to explore without prompting.

During the month of December we have eased back into out studies, and tomorrow, we go full throttle into them. My teen is doing quite well with self-directed studies, and doesn’t have to be forced or coerced into sinking her teeth into grammar or science so I am going to continue on this path and just feed her interests this year. My boys are just all together different in learning styles and in attitude and they also need guidance. With too much free time they get into trouble and when away from the books too long get lazy. They moaned and groaned tonight when I told them we would be back to our regularly scheduled school work and that any laziness would be dealt with harshly.

Over the last few months I have learned a great deal about myself and my kids. What I can let go and what I need to focus on in areas of education and learning. I am never going to be a hard ass when it comes to their education, but I am going to be diligent in making sure they have every opportunity to learn what they need to to go out into the world and be successful. I’m still trying to find a balance while focusing on all the reasons we chose to homeschool our kids, some days are definitely easier than others.

Blessed

There were not enough hours or days in this weekend. Friday was filled with non-stop errands with the day ending with a mandatory meeting at our homeschool cover school. Saturday morning my oldest daughter and I worked on the group 4H exhibits and then I was off to volunteer for 4H at the Fairgrounds. As soon as I got home it was time to help the kids with their individual entries for 4H. Before I knew it, it was bedtime for the littles and Mr. K and I finally had some time to spend together. We watched a movie and then collapsed into bed right after knowing that we would have to do it all over again today. And we did. Bright and early the laundry was going, kids were cleaning, yard work was being done, and last minute touches on 4H exhibits were being taken care of. We ended the day with tired little ones, hot bowls of chili and homemade bread.

And this week, well it will be just as busy.

And I am thankful.

Blessed.

Thankful that I get this time with my children. Even when it’s frustrating and exhausting and I don’t know whether I am coming or going. This life I have is the life I always wanted. A life I prayed for, hoped for, and wished upon stars for.

****I would like to thank Princess Jenn for taking the time this weekend to fix my RSS feed.

Letting Go – Homeschooling Five

This past weekend I went to a homeschooling conference. It was small and personal and it really gave those of us who were there the time to talk, share what we were doing and ask questions. I am so appreciative of all the women who were there and all their wisdom and support that they brought with them.

I’ve been struggling with homeschooling my kids. At least the younger ones. There have been moments we have all been in tears or screaming or both and that is definitely not what I wanted. In so many ways homeschooling works for us as a family but my ideas about how to educate them and how to implement it in our home, well, has not gone as well. Sure they have learned, but at what cost? And was it long term knowledge or short term they were getting. Traditional schools these days tend to teach towards the test and that is not what I want for my kids at home and that is not why I chose to homeschool them.

I also have a child who has learning disabilities and neurodevelopmental delays. They are frustrating to him and to me. Traditional teaching methods I have learned do not work with him and even more so, he is left frustrated when he doesn’t get it or fails at it. These are the things I wanted to avoid in traditional school programs so it seems insane that I would even attempt them at home. But I have, and it has not worked.

I’ve been soul searching for awhile and after the homeschooling conference I felt supported and also felt like I had been handed some more tools to put in my box to change things and today we did. Today was the first day I made a commitment to change how my kids learned and at times it was hard, but I just chanted to myself “first do no harm” and we had a wonderful day.

The kids seemed bewildered. They wondered why we were not doing our usual lessons in the usual ways. I was calmer, more relaxed and so were they. I know it will take some work on my part more so than on theirs, and I know that the biggest thing is for me is letting go – letting go of those ideas and standards and rules that are drilled into our heads about education and what our kids ought to know and how they ought to learn.

Hopefully the start of a great week

I woke up to Fall. The rain came this weekend and it was wonderful. Rolling thunderstorms with lots of humidity and then as the sun came up this morning the cool, fall like Alabama weather we only see a touch of was here. I am not sure if it will last but I will be enjoying it while I can.

The weekend was a good one. We spent Saturday morning at 5 Rivers with our friend Shannon for the Heart Walk and then we went and spent the day visiting my aunt in Spanish Fort. Sunday we did things around the house like laundry, but mostly I sat on the couch watching movies and hand sewing something to sell on Etsy. (to be set up soon) I saw a delightful Indie film title Tortilla Soup. This is a feel good movie with a great cast. I love movies that have cooking inner twined into the story line and it has a surprising ending which I almost suspected but wasn’t sure.

Our weekend ended with a fantastic dinner. We made The Pioneer Woman’s recipe Marlboro Man’s Favorite Sandwich and served it with plain potato chips. The sandwiches were absolutely delicious. We made half with onions and half without because the kids do not tend to eat the onions. Our children devoured these sandwiches. We also added sliced provolone cheese to our sandwiches which gave them an even better taste. This recipe is not for people dieting however because you use lots and lots of BUTTER!

One of the things that I got to do this weekend that I have not got to do in a really long time was SLEEP. We actually went to bed early Friday and Saturday nights and slept. Last night I went to bed late but I slept hard and woke up feeling great. I feel energized to take on the week.

Twenty years ago I wrote out a list of things I was going to do before I was 40. I have talked about it before. So far I have met every personal goal on my list but one. The one being to have a book published by the age of 40. Most people who know me are aware that this is the last goal on my list and have asked when I am going to write my great novel. Well, I have a story outline but that is it. I can’t seem to pull it all together to actually sit down and write it. I’m a busy girl with all these kids I had. Who knew that having five children before 35 would do that to a person?! I am not giving up on this goal but I have decided to do something a little different goal setting.

My friend Kellee who writes at The Not So Small Things wrote this great list of things she wanted to do before she was thirty. I really like the approach and attitude she had towards making her list and also sticking to it. I’ve decided to follow in her footsteps and make my own list, Before 37. I hope she doesn’t mind me stealing her idea – if she does she needs to say so right now in the comments! I am not sure if i will put it up on my blog or not like she has but I might. I have to get the list written first! O and look a there, she already has her Before 31 list up. I better get started.

I am still looking for Positive Cesarean Section Birth Stories to publish on my blog the month of October. If you would like to guest post and tell your story – please email me at dscvrlife at bellsouth dot net and be sure to put in the title that you are interested. I would really like a dad to write from his perspective too so this is not just limited to women. I have had several people ask me “why October?” I really do not have an answer, I just decided to do this after reading so many other blogs that talked so negatively about cesarean sections that I wanted to give women the opportunity to share their positive cesarean section stories in a supportive environment.

Beauty and Oil at Mile Marker Four

This past weekend I went to Fort Morgan to spend some RnR on the beach and to be lulled  to sleep by the crashing waves of the Gulf of Mexico. This was my first trip down there since the Deep Horizon tragedy and to see for myself what impact the oil spill has had on a beach that I have visited more times than I can count my last thirty-six years.

As I drove down Fort Morgan Road there was one thing that was clear, property rentals were down. I saw five times as many rental agency signs and vacancy signs than I have seen in the last few years. I usually encounter many people on the road, towing boats for fishing behind them as I make my way down to mile marker 4 but I did not see one. The Chevron that is normally full of big tank like sedans owned by snowbirds was nearly empty and the hot dog stand and the bait shop were no more.

When I got out of my van I did not smell oil, but I smelled the salt from the Gulf. The smell of the beach that I love filled my nostrils and I was glad that I was there. I was still debating if I would let my kids play in the water or even play on the sand and was thankful that the house we were at had a pool and that under the house was plenty for them to play with. We unloaded our stuff and then I stood out on the porch and looked out over the beach.

It was breathtaking. From where I stood, on the porch, the beach was beautiful and the water was calm. In fact, the Gulf was gently rolling onto the shore, and it was a clear blue-green color. It looked like perfection. A perfect end to summer days on the beach.

Then in the distance you see oil rigs. Even though they have been there for years, in the past they have been ignored. I really had not paid that much attention to them. During the day you were too focused tanning on the beach or splashing in the water to notice and at night they were just beacons of light. Not only were there rigs but also huge barges that even the BP workers, who were constantly driving up and down the beach, did not know what they were there for. Some days we counted four, and others five. These barges came and went but were always present during our stay.

The first day we were there I did not see any oil in the Gulf. At least not from the from the edge in which I stood, but it was in the sand, burried, only to be unearthed by scooting feet of those of us sitting in chairs or by little kids digging in the sand with their shovels. The tarballs look like cat poop in a litter box without the smell. But don’t get me wrong, they do smell, and if you get the oil on your hands or feet or skin at all you have to do a great deal of scrubbing to remove it.

Right now if you were to get into the Gulf I am not so sure oil should be your biggest concern. The sharks are bad and they come in close to feed. The friends we were staying with had video of a shark that was in the water that was less than knee deep. The stingarays will come even farther in to feed and getting stung by one is not pleasant. And let me not forget about the flies. The flies at times were so thick, and they bite, leaving huge whelps on your skin and even drawing blood.

While we were there we spent very little time down on the beach. We mostly stayed up on the deck where the pool was. The heat was unbearable at times over the weekend. In fact it was stifling. In the past five years that we have visited the beach at this time of the year we have not encountered heat like this. So between the oil and the heat there was not many beach goers though the few I did see did go into the water but their jots out were short. In fact, my boys, did go into the water a few times but they were not in it long and when they came out they didn’t have any oil or residue on them that I could see.

The last full day we were there though the Gulf was like glass. It hardly moved. It was so calm it was like bath water and you could see clear to the bottom. It was so perfect and tempting that I finally grabbed me a float and decided to venture out into it. It was low tide and I must have walked 30 yards out until it finally reached waist height. Then I laid on my float and tried to relax and then it was like I was in the midst of a giant BP dump in the sea.

There was oil everywhere, in clumps and also stringy and runny looking patches all around me. It stuck to my float and it stuck to me and it came up all the sudden. The oil, that in days past we had not seen in the Gulf, was there in a large amount, as if someone had just dumped buckets of it at that very moment. If you are a parent, you may have had one of those times when you were bathing your babies or toddlers and they pooped in the water and you saw either a runny mess or turds floating around your baby that you were trying to wash clean and you get grossed out and panick, pulling your baby up out of the shit filled water. That is how I felt in the Gulf, 30 yards from the shore on Sunday morning at mile marker 4 as I made my way to the shore.