The Feminist Breeder has since removed all references and comments on her Facebook page about this situation. Instead of issuing a public apology and then deleting the mindless, hurtful post she still plays the victim. In no way was she in any danger of being physically hurt, nor was she or her “fans” standing up to violence against women – that is just a just a cover to not take responsibility for the inappropriate responses and atttack on a grieving mother.
I’ve been wondering where people’s heads are lately. Some people are so self-centered that they seem to not see the forest for the trees in front of them.
Poor ME. Look who hurt ME. See what someone said about ME. I’m just trying to be ME.
Blah, blah, blah. Give ME a fucking break. Stop your drama whoring and trying to increase the hits on your blog.
So, tonight I saw on The Feminist Breeder’s Facebook page (don’t worry, I clicked on “unlike”) and on her Twitter account ( I also “unfollowed”) a link to a post to this blog post written by Michelle – who I don’t know and knew nothing about except what I saw on her blog tonight and was completely disheartened. Then after seeing the influx of comments on TFB’s Facebook page and on Michelle’s blog post I got pissed off and decided that I was going to speak out for the “little” guy because evidently people have issue calling out a well like blogger for being a bitch.
The Feminist Breeder wrote a post that was provocative and honest, and like other things she has written she knew it would receive praise and criticism. As a woman who has suffered with PPD and PTSD after a traumatic birth experience I can relate to having hormonal out bursts and a wide range of emotions with my five children. I read her post, felt no need to comment and moved on. She was getting plenty of high fives and consoling hugs on the issue and there was no need to add my .02. I didn’t think about it again until tonight.
Michelle, author of Out of the Woods, read that post too. This blogger, this mother, I do not know read it and it pissed her off and from her point of view, rightly so. See Michelle just lost her son Sawyer, he died in her arms. She wrote a post saying she wanted to punch The Feminist Breeder in the face for what she confessed she felt in a moment of insert hormononal depression pregnancy issues here. Clearly CLEARLY the post Michelle wrote was from a place of grief, anger, and hurt but evidently The Feminist Breeder didn’t see it that way.
Instead of thinking, being conscientious and looking more deeply into the situation her first reaction was to strike out at this grieving mother, posting a link to her blog post with a picture of her holding her dying son next to it on her Facebook page and also tweeting it to her followers, nearly 3000 of them. With in minutes of her posting TFB’s fans went on the defense and began to bash this grieving mother, not only on TFB’s Facebook page but also on Michelle’s blog post. They too, made no effort to look any further than that blog post. They didn’t even take the time to read Michelle’s bio which clearly said she just lost her son.
What really FUCKING PISSES ME OFF is the lack of compassion and responsibility The Feminist Breeder takes when she is called out and chastized for pointing out Michelle’s post in an effort to play “poor me, see I am being attacked for having normal hormonal parenting feelings”. In fact she even says that she isn’t to blame if people go to Michelle’s blog and leave nasty comments – it’s not like she asked them too. Well WTF! What do you think you are going to do when you post to your fan base and Twitter followers that you are hurt a “friend” would post that they wanted to punch you in the face?
Here’s my take:
GET OVER YOURSELF GINA! Sometimes, it’s best just to let things go. Just LET IT GO. So someone doesn’t like what you wrote, so they said they wanted to punch you in the face. SO WHAT!?! Michelle has little followers on her blog from what I can tell and what she said has little effect on The Feminist Breeder. Leave the grieving mother alone. Own that you fucked up and got all offended over nothing, over a grieving mother who wrote from a place of grief and pain. Own that you posted a link to her blog that led your fans to act like ass monkeys and say things that will cause this mother more grief and pain because of your inflated ego. And for GOD’S SAKE when you were told that the picture that was next to the link was of a mother with her DYING child you could have made the right choice and DELETED the whole mess.
Whine POOR ME. Tell the world I am attacking you and that you were just trying to take up for yourself and be an advocate for women. Let me just say that when you take up the cause to be an advocate for women, you don’t stomp on the ones with the hurting hearts and you use a bit more discretion on who you put up on the chopping block – even if they are being “mean” to you. If you haven’t heard the phrase “turn the other cheek” maybe you should acquaint yourself with it, especially when you are a blogger that has a growing fan base and your actions in this community will be a sign of your character.
For the record, I do not know Michelle. My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family at this time.
Also, I posted to TFB’s Facebook page that I felt like she should have let it go and not posted what she did.
It has been brought to my attention that The Feminist Breeder DELETED the link and the comments on her Facebook Page. I say OWN your words and what you do, instead of trying to just erase it.
As a member of the blogging community, I feel it’s important to stand up for the “little guy”.
Feel free to comment, I have my big girl panties on.